Given up hope dating
The most common problem was that they just didn't like the same things as their dates (14 per cent), their dates only talk about themselves (nine per cent) or they have felt bombarded by the person after the date (seven per cent).
"Our drive for union is part of our species, as it is for almost all mammals.
The human heart, however damaged, still can start beating again under the right circumstances." Losing love through death or divorce is devastating.
Kelly Green, a single mother of four young children, threw herself into the dating scene, but repeated disappointments made her realize she needed time to get to know herself.
"Sometimes you just can't hope for yourself, but you can for someone else," says Kagan.
"One of the best gifts I've ever received came from a friend after I'd had a particularly bad breakup.